Ruminations of a Content Woman : Questioning Unhappiness

My Midlife Journey

May 24, 2022 Montrose, Colorado

Hi! I’m Allie and I sold everything in 2020 to live solo in my RV full time. Traveling the United States, I camp mostly in public lands for free as I hike, bike and seek out quiet spots in nature.

Wishing More People Were Happy

As I rode my bike down the paved path along the Uncompahgre River in Montrose, Colorado on this bright sunny morning I thought to myself “how is it that I deserve this amazing life?

I have a wonderful life, I always have. I have little to no complaints about the life I’ve been given. I’ve always had what I needed and more.

So why do I feel guilty about continuing to enjoy life at 50 years old?

I’ve known many people in my 50 years that their lives were in shambles. They deal with mental and physical abuse, losing it all, or simply seem to hate life. I don’t have that.

I didn’t work any harder than anyone else to get this life; at times I’ve worked very hard to have what have and sometimes taking it easy and letting things flow on their own.

So why have I been given such a beautiful life and some have been given, well, the shaft?

Sure, it hasn’t always been great. I’ve been divorced and a lot of that failed marriage was me. I’ve lost loved ones, I’ve had deep sorrow and I’ve fallen on hard times.

Yet as I travel and meet people I realize how wonderful I’ve had it all my life compared to theirs. (No I’m not comparing lives here, I simply know some women and men that have had a very tough life. I admire them for taking it head on but still wonder why they have had it so tough.)

What is the secret? Luck? Gratefulness? Do I “go with the flow”?

I don’t know if there is a secret to living a great life.

I can say I’ve never wanted more; I don’t “keep up with the Jones”. I could care less what everyone else has, I usually don’t need a bigger house, faster car or better toys. I have never gotten trapped in enviously wanting what others have.

I’ve always been satisfied with having my needs met plus a few perks to have fun with.

Right now I live in a used RV that I purchased with savings and the sale of my home in California. I saved money like a mad woman to have this lifestyle and now I’m living my dream. To me, it’s not hard if you stay within your means.

I live very frugally, only buying things and experiences that will enhance my life like the occasional lunch out, new hiking shoes or a train trip I’ve wanted to do since I was a kid.

My bicycle is a free hand-me-down and my kayak was $110 on Amazon. I do things that cost little to no money.

I’ve learned to let go and live in the moment.

AND I’M HAPPY!

Why do I see so many people in this world unhappy? It makes me sad.

Last modified: October 18, 2022

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